tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post5048104916910715564..comments2014-08-13T09:16:54.233-07:00Comments on Here. In My Head.: Where I'm coming from and where I'm goingJen K.http://www.blogger.com/profile/14171503438035618235noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-82541525874523792922010-02-23T19:11:18.541-08:002010-02-23T19:11:18.541-08:00I love this post. I'm 27 and my hubby and I ar...I love this post. I'm 27 and my hubby and I are nowhere near having babies- he's in school still and has a while to go. My mom had 3 babes by the time she was 25, and I definitely feel pressure because she wants to be a grandma SO bad. Not to mention that all of my friends married young and started having kids so soon that they're all already finished having babies. It's been easy to feel left out and sad, mostly because I really *want* a baby, but I do know that I enjoy so much more freedom and sleep than they all do. It's hard not to compare yourself to others and where you think you *should* be in life. Great reminder. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18112222816531905191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-71970167424656884662010-02-01T09:24:23.072-08:002010-02-01T09:24:23.072-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.swonderfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10211968241355253269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-81137319582472078692010-01-27T12:36:29.853-08:002010-01-27T12:36:29.853-08:00Karol,
Another good point and something I often wo...Karol,<br />Another good point and something I often wonder about. For me, I never planned on staying in Indiana right after school. For the careers I chose, it's either live in a big city or choose something else. Not much for TV/Marketing/Advertising in a smaller town. My husband and I are lucky that we both found good jobs out here. But at the same time, I wonder if I would have chosen a different path had I stayed in Indiana. I think living in a big city, definitely keeps you on your toes and keeps you young. I have spent almost 10 years now being enthralled and enraptured by this city with so much to offer, I'm sure that is one of the reasons kids did not even enter my mind or the picture. I can see where the NYC moms would think 18-25 is young, but in a small town, it's not so young, but actually quite normal.Jen K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14171503438035618235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-63337980492164949632010-01-27T06:36:14.273-08:002010-01-27T06:36:14.273-08:00I'm with Kelley about perceptions. Living in ...I'm with Kelley about perceptions. Living in NYC, I'm going to be a fairly young mom at 32. If you go on the NY-centric board urbanbaby.com and say you're 18-25 and having a baby, you'd get flamed for being trailer trash (nice, right?).Karolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11041701734334499339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-15821555258970566592010-01-26T15:24:28.771-08:002010-01-26T15:24:28.771-08:00Great thoughts. It's funny how, for me, having...Great thoughts. It's funny how, for me, having two babies by 27 was just what I needed and wanted. For my older sister, waiting until she was 32 for her first was what she wanted. I can't imagine doing it her way, and she can't imagine doing it mine... but we're both so happy we did it the way we did.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06534639424668879187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-56849411451232850492010-01-22T08:26:52.577-08:002010-01-22T08:26:52.577-08:00Kelley, you bring up a really interesting point an...Kelley, you bring up a really interesting point and something I forgot I wanted to add to my post. I agree completely about how it depends on where we come from and how we live. I am a people-pleaser and always wanted to do right in the eyes of my parents. I felt like any misstep would be considered a failure and I tried to avoid that at all costs. I'm sure they would have loved for me to become a mom at any point (in my marriage of course :) but for me, I could not even consider giving my child any less than what I had. I was given so much as a kid and I can't fathom giving my own any less than they deserve. <br />And while Matt and I had been dating for about 6 years before we married, it was different because those were transitional years. Marriage has definitely strengthened us as a couple. I can't describe it. We know who we are as individuals and how we'll be as parents based on all this time we've had to figure things out. I am definitely appreciative of all the years we've spent as a couple and look forward to expanding in the years ahead. I wouldn't trade the way we're doing things AT ALL. Great thoughts everyone! Thanks for reading.Jen K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14171503438035618235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-83971380893723858062010-01-22T08:10:05.014-08:002010-01-22T08:10:05.014-08:00I am still not ready but I'm getting there. I&...I am still not ready but I'm getting there. I'm so excited for this "June baby" ...I hope it's born on the 13th!!! ;) ...you're awesome, Jen.Mama Magna Doodlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08897013544989383480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-47548850660665886352010-01-21T15:06:55.289-08:002010-01-21T15:06:55.289-08:00Age of parenthood is such a funny thing. I was 25...Age of parenthood is such a funny thing. I was 25 when I had my first. This seemed like a good, middle of the road age to me. I'd been married for 3 years, my husband was 33 and the time seemed right. <br /><br />When my 1st started school I came to find that I was a REALLY YOUNG MOM. As in "Oh. My. God." There was one other mom who had her 1st when she was 32 and the rest were over 40 when they had their kids. Well, one mom had a DD in college plus this kindergartener...but point being that I was like an infant to them. Clearly our area was one where people tend to wait :) <br /><br />I like that we all have our own unique paths through life :)Nicole (@Nicole LJ)http://feedingtimeatthezoo.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-36405870104948211672010-01-21T14:41:02.974-08:002010-01-21T14:41:02.974-08:00So interesting how where we come from, who we live...So interesting how where we come from, who we live amongst changes our perceptions so much. At 28 I don't feel one bit old to be having my first child. In fact, sometimes I feel really young for this still. Yet that other person on your forum thinks 28 is "old." <br /><br />I do know that far more important than my age in planning a family was having time with Nate. Most of our friends had kids far before they hit the 7 year marriage mark. For me, taking a good, long time to focus on each other, work on our marriage, and work on ourselves and what we learned about ourselves through marriage was invaluable and I wouldn't trade that for anything! I think it will make the transition to parenting harder in the sense that we are so used to being a two-some that three will be such a big change in identity. Yet, I think it will be a much easier transition because our marriage has a lot more strength now than even 3 years ago.Kelleyhttp://kelleyann.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-54911114238356967842010-01-21T10:45:07.485-08:002010-01-21T10:45:07.485-08:00Jen, I loved this post. You are a great writer gi...Jen, I loved this post. You are a great writer girl! I think you are very smart in waiting and exploring the world first. I had Steph when I was 20 and even though I wouldn't change that, I did miss out on a lot of things. The great part is, I'm a young Mimi and not walking with a cane while babysitting. It's great that you have a group of ladies that are at the same stage of your pregnancy with you. You do have all your ducks in a row!Mimi's Toeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06918834487225748283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-14268108532729159122010-01-21T09:46:03.145-08:002010-01-21T09:46:03.145-08:00I don't care how old you are--just glad there&...I don't care how old you are--just glad there's finally a baby in that belly!! :)<br /><br />I was 28 when I got pregnant with Zane. Phil was 16 when Melissa had Jessica. I went to Grandparents (r special person Day with Zane's friend Sarah (as her special person!) and we met in the auditorium and I ended up winning Youngest Grandmother. I was (still am) 37. People don't believe it. People don't think I'm a "real" grandma because Jessica is not my "real" daughter. Y'know what I say to those people? (Bad F words. LOL) I don't care what they think. It is what it is and I don't regret a minute of any of it.~michelle pendergrasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04963999375035588206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8726952732479127063.post-19141008434965200852010-01-21T09:34:29.942-08:002010-01-21T09:34:29.942-08:00Jen, it's so strange to read this. Your thoug...Jen, it's so strange to read this. Your thoughts are my thoughts. And it's so true, is there really ever an ideal time? I don't think so either. We make things work the best way we know how. Although, I've never met Matt, he sounds like a wonderful guy. Having each other is what you really need to be on track to finding the ideal time for anything. Good luck!Tiffanynoreply@blogger.com